DOES YOUR MIND JUMP BETWEEN EXTREMES, PERFECTIONISM, ALL-OR-NOTHING THINKING, FEELING LIKE THINGS WON’T GET BETTER?
- What this book is about
- Who this book is for
- What you’ll learn
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What this book is about
Middle Think offers a powerful yet simple approach to breaking free from these mental traps. Instead of getting stuck in rigid thought patterns, you will learn how to embrace a balanced mindset that fosters clarity, confidence, and resilience.
With relatable examples and actionable strategies, this practical guide helps you shift from extreme thinking to a more flexible, realistic perspective. Key takeaways, include:
- How extreme thinking affects emotions, decisions, and relationships
- Practical techniques to recognize and reframe unhelpful thoughts
- Simple exercises to build mental balance and reduce stress
- Strategies to strengthen resilience and improve self-awareness
- Tools to navigate life’s complexities with a clearer, steadier mindset
This is not about suppressing your thoughts, it is about transforming them. Middle Think gives you the tools to move beyond extremes and build a mindset that works for you, not against you.
Who this book is for
- You want to stop seeing things as all good or all bad
- You’re tired of perfectionism and the pressure to always get it right
- You’re ready to break free from black-and-white thinking patterns
- You want to make more balanced decisions without the extremes
- You’re looking for a healthier mindset that leaves room for growth, mistakes, and progress
What you’ll learn
- How black-and-white thinking impacts your emotions and choices
- Ways to recognize and reframe all-or-nothing thoughts
- Simple tools to build a more balanced, realistic mindset
- How to reduce stress by shifting out of mental extremes
- Strategies to strengthen resilience and handle life with more clarity
Inside Middle Think
Here’s a preview of Middle Think:
All-or-nothing thinking might sound new to you, but it’s been influencing your life since you were little. As a kid, you may have learned that being “selfless” was “good,” and anything else made you “bad.” This extreme perspective ignores complexity and will lead you to disregard your own needs, constantly putting others first, and feeling guilty any time you prioritize yourself, ultimately draining your energy and self-worth.
Maybe you felt pressured to like what everyone else liked out of fear that no one would like you. With this narrow outlook you’re afraid to express your genuine desires, constantly seeking external validation, and struggling to form authentic connections because you’re not being yourself.
Or maybe you were told to lower your standards or give up on a dream because you’d never achieve it. This kind of extreme belief stops you from starting new things. And even when you try, perfectionism creeps in. You feel like you need natural talent or all the right tools before you begin.
This will leave you overwhelmed, causing you to give up before you even begin. Ignoring your interests leads to discouragement and wasted time on unproductive activities like binge—watching or excessive drinking. You sit and watch others achieve while feeling stuck, lazy, and unproductive.
Extreme thinking also affects your relationships. If you believe the rigid idea that a romantic relationship is your only path to happiness, you may settle for unhealthy partners just to avoid being alone, ultimately leading to resentment. Extremes also make it harder to form new relationships. Someone who thinks no one wants to date anymore will struggle to connect with someone who is open to love. And we’ve all seen how extreme views can tear families and friendships apart.
Parents, for example, might feel justified in cutting off their children because of extreme beliefs about who their children should love or what career they should pursue. Since we’re taught that family is everything, this leaves the child feeling like they have only two options: live a lie or disappoint everyone.
Extreme thinking also makes different perspectives seem like a threat. Surrounding yourself only with people who share your views limits your ability to grow and makes your worldview rigid. You might start by sharing a common belief, but when you connect with others solely based on rigid beliefs, you end up agreeing to ideas you don’t believe in, just to fit in—getting pushed further into harmful or dangerous thinking.1
Rigid beliefs don’t just affect your mental health; they affect your physical health too. If you accept the common, extreme belief that “everything causes cancer,” you might not bother making healthy food choices. While processed foods are convenient and delicious, they lack nutrition and can lead to heart disease and other illnesses.2 If you think all-or-nothing regarding weight loss and jump into an intense workout routine instead of easing into it, you’re more likely to get injured, burn out, or give up, which is why most diets fail.3
- Cohen, G. L. (2022). Belonging: The science of creating connection and bridging divides. W. W. Norton & Company. pp. 78-79.
- Marti, A. (2019). Ultra-processed foods are not ‘real food’ but really affect your health. Nutrients, 11(8), 1902.
- Campbell-Danesh, A. (2020, August 31). Why do most diets fail in the long run? Psychology Today.
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